Why do you think parents wish to ruin their childrens lives for?

do you think it is something they unconciously do or do they actually conciously do this??





why so for your opinion?





Thanks for your answers!Why do you think parents wish to ruin their childrens lives for?
I wish for the opposite of ruining my kids' lives. I want them to have a better life than me! However, what you may not understand is that parents very much wish that their kids could learn from the parents' experience, rather than having to go through their own failures. But when we try to tell you what is best, rather than thanking us and following our experience-aided advice, you reject it and mislabel it as an attempt to ruin your life. This dynamic sucks for both sides, actually. Why do you think parents wish to ruin their childrens lives for?
of course not. they do wish to keep their children healthy, wealthy and wise. this may not be what is actually in the child's best interest in the long run but the formative years are for parents to assert what they think is the best plan. after age 18 a child may effectively decide to do what they wish, as long as they also choose to accept no funds. if you take the money, you usually also have to take the advice.
They don't.





Generally parents want the best for their children, although it is not always seen like this by their children.





Oh parents make mistakes ( they are only human) and some children will not forgive them for those mistakes, however little they may be and will continue the unforgiving nature for years, until they find themselves in a similar position with heir own children-then they realise their own parents difficulty.





When children are very young they think parents can do anything, then as they get older they realise their parents can make mistakes and this is a natural disappointment to them, then they become teenagers and think they are old enough to make decisions for themselves, believing their parents are 'stopping them having fun' or just 'don't understand them'.


Then those teenagers go out into the real world, have to pay the bills and make their own decisions and they find it is not as easy as it looked thought their eyes when they were younger. Then they have children of their own and their whole viewpoint changes.





I hated my mum and dad for not letting me do things I wanted to do, then I became a parent and I realised how hard it really was and the cycle continues.





.........and then there is some people who just blame others for their own mistakes, because it is easier to blame someone else than take responsibility for the mistakes themselves.












I dont so much think they do it on purpose, although I'm sure some do.





I think some parents try so hard to do right by their kids, that they become overbearing and demanding, without realizing it.





My cousins parents tried so hard to make her the smartest, prettiest, most responsible daughter ever. She went to college 2 years early, and halfway through her first year, she became out of control. She wasnt used to the freedom and option to make her own choices, and didnt have the skills to do things on her own, without being told. It eventually developed into her getting into a violent relationship with a man that dictated her every move...and due to the control over her at home, she thought that was normal. Since then I've 'adopted' her and shes getting back on track, but at 20 years old, she still isnt 'adult' enough to make basic decisions on her own.





Not that I'm saying all cases are like that. Just one example of thousands.





Edit: That came out sounding more negative then I had hoped. Basically what I was trying to say is that parents try to prevent their children from making the same mistakes they did, but sometimes you have to learn the biggest life lessons on your own. Hopefully that sounds better.
oh dear you are obviously young.I dont think its the case of parents wanting to ruin lives but as you will find out one day parenting is very hard. It seems when you are young that parents seem to want to nag you and say you cant do this or that but believe me they only try to steer you in the right direction through life.x
i dont think they do it intentionally a lot of things come from when they were kids and how there parents treated them. i dont think any parent just thinks ''im gonna squeeze out a kid and then make its life hell'' well unless they re the parents of poor baby P.





it depends where your coming from with this question really i cant judge unless i knew the full story
I'm guessing you're pretty young??





I used to think my parents were out to ruin my life when I was a teenager...they weren't, but that's how it seemed to me at the time...





....oh yes, and of course my daughter informed me that I was ruining hers when she was a teen too....





now she's older she's seen the light too....lol
They don't have Faith in them selves as parents therefore dragging the kids down. Some parents feel if they can't control their kids then they will fail...
selfish, bullying lawless b*******
My son doesn't feel like this! He is my son and a gay man. He is a great guy and I am proud of him.
Bitter much?
Some of them r control freaks !!!!!