How can a flawed parent prevent his/her child from having the same flaws?

A parent knows his/her personal/character flaws well and doesn't want his/her child the same.





What should that parent do?





This assuming the other parent is as ';normal'; as can be.How can a flawed parent prevent his/her child from having the same flaws?
Lead them by example and verbally teach them. For example, I tell my son never to make the same mistakes I made (ie. starting smoking). Always try to be better than your parents, I tell him. Your children aren't going to be perfect and they are going to make mistakes. Just do the best YOU can to make them the best people THEY can be.How can a flawed parent prevent his/her child from having the same flaws?
(a) the parent can do better;


(b) the parent can at least do a better when around the child;


(c) the other parent and other role models can be a counterbalancing influence; and


(d) the parents can both make clear to the child what their expectations are for the child's behavior.





(a) is obviously optimal. but If it weren't possible to raise a child without the flaws of a parent, after hundreds of generations of humanity we would all be truly hopelessly flawed. Even more than it turns out we actually are.
it's pretty hard. you could leave the family, but that might create other problems just as bad or worse. you really can't protect your kids from you. it's a true fact. think about the alternatives. there aren't many.


your kids will have flaws. there's no way around it.


your best option is to improve yourself (it's a great example, too) and overcome your flaws with personal growth. character flaws are not permanent. you can change. you can heal. you can overcome it.
First of all no one is perfect. Do not expect your children to be or you will end up causing them to suffer from anxiety.
maybe don't have kids.