I got whipped once, but for something completely stupid recently
I feel like they don't care about me or what I do. I hear about other kids being punished but not me. At one point in time I even considered doing a MAJOR crime a few months ago.
BTW: I don't get chores because my grandma cleans the whole house when I'm at school, she lives with me and is retired and she gets bored. I'm 14 years old.How do I get my parents to discipline me?
wow i would say u r lucky, but i think i kno how u feel, well kinda...
all i kno to say is sorry.
ps im 14 2How do I get my parents to discipline me?
You're really not lucky. You'll understand when you're older that your parents aren't doing a good job of raising their children. :-/ Sorry.
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i never said she was lucky, i meant that most kids would think they r lucky to not be disciplined, but that it really isnt a good thing...
people on here are retards, think about what i actually said b4 u give me the oh so evil ';thumbs down'; %26gt;=[
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hey, we all make mistakes no matter what age. It doesn't make you a bad kid, It just means maybe you need some guidance. Sit down and talk with your parents about activities you can do in your community. If you really want your parents to listen they probably will. Chin up and good luck !
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Drink gas whenever you are bad.
perhaps your parents are taking a unique approach to the situation. their nonchalant response to your activities may be their way of punishing you! maybe they want you to be the one to realize that what you're doing is wrong on your own...it seems to be working because you are feeling guilty about not being punished which means you know what you did is wrong. just talk to them and let them know how you feel. tell them you think that they don't care. communication is key here
well, you might not think i would know what im talking about because i am 14 too, but i had the same problem. you might try talking to them about it. tell them that you feel like they dont care about you and that that's the reason for all the bad stuff you did (do). it worked for me and i just might work for you. i hope this helped, because i know how upsetting it is to feel the way you do.
your parents shouldnt whip you. thats child abuse, and just enjoy it. dont give them any reason to punish you. Getting arrested when your 14 isnt exactlly something most collages or bosses want as a quality in a person...
Oh honey.... you need to walk over to that Damn TV and turn it off... then Tell your Mom and dad you need to talk to them..... Explain that youre starting to feel as if they dont care about you enough to disipline you. Tell then that you dont want to do bad things but you feel that is the only way to get their attention. You dont want negative attention though....
Hi. Maybe you should be asking how do I get my parents to pay me more attention. You don't actually want them to beat you do? You just want assurance and more attention from them if you do things to see if you will get punished..... You need to talk to them about this. Or just leave this up on your computer screen, write it down or something. Just make sure they see it.
How about coming right out %26amp; ask them why they aren't better parents? Tell them exactly what you said here. I agree with you; they act like they don't care. See how they respond to that. Hopefully, they're just stupid %26amp; don't know any better. Maybe you should buy a book on how to be a good parent.
I know what you mean, tho. I had a good friend in high school whose parents let her do whatever she wanted. She would say she had a curfew even tho she didn't. Her parents loved her; her mother sewed all of her many clothes. I don't know why some parents seem to think that their children can raise themselves.
Maybe you are smarter than your parents. Obviously, you know right from wrong. Use this knowledge to get ahead in life and quit worrying about your lax parents.
Here's a different solution, don't do things that would harm other people; and there will be no reason to need discipline.
I don't want my parents to care for me. Not in that sense. I love em, but I'd never stop them from making a choice, even if I thought it was foolish. This is how I show respect.
You're wanting attention, who doesn't. Your parents probably just don't know how to parent you. Try sitting down and talking with them, if you can get them to, and ask why. Tell them that you are still young and having a hard time making good choices; you don't want to end up in jail, and you'd like a little help. Something as simple as that might get their attention, it might not. If they get mad, what's the worst they can do, punish you? But whatever, your life is ultimately up to you. If they're not going to be the parents you must. No matter what your parents do you are responcible for yourself. You sound mature, mature enough to want to be pointed the right direction. Many young people have made it through situations like yours to become happy productive adults, who are good for the community. You can talk to your parents, and I pray that they will listen to you, but how you turn out is up to you.
You do need a responsible adult in your life, someone to model after, or to just talk to to if your conversation with your parents doesn't go well, try talking to a councellor at your school, or find a local church. Many have youth pastors who will know what your going through, if not by personal experience, by watching countless other kids go through it. And even if they don't have a youth pastor, the church's pastor can offer councelling which could be very valuable.
I'll be praying for you. If you want to talk, just drop me a note.
Maybe your parents just don't believe in discipline. Talk to your parents and say ';I think you guys just need more rules for me.'; ';Your letting me go outside the boundaries.';
Well, maybe if you just sit your parents down and tell them how you feel well then maybe they would listen!!!
Now, this is either a CRY FOR HELP or a total fabrication for attention -- or both. (How did that sound?) Your actions are actually just that, you need love. In fact, boys and men will ALREADY understand this about you, and are probably already taking advantage of you wherever they can -- and you think you're keeping up %26amp; handling it. But, not really.. You need to be talked to, and spend time with.. You don't need to be beaten.. you need to know that you're a real young woman, that needs her own time %26amp; space to study and read and be 14. Your friends are probably real horses' as*es -- and will still be on the streets, when they're 14 and 44, if they're not living in a cardboard box or in jail. You need to show that you're SMARTER and stronger inside, really. By writing here, you're already halfway there. You SHOULD simply sit and chat with your grandmother and talk about HER and her life, for whatever she recalls. She might be an idiot, or she might be the sweetest woman that's made some mistakes (and done some good things, too) that you may learn from.
well talk to ur parents about that or even ur grandma she sounds like she might understand
when I was a teenager many years ago my parents had a what ever attitude(I'm #9 in 11). So I took it upon myself to give myself a crefew etc.. I looked @ what other parents were doing for my friends and followed them. It made me a better person and in the long run a much better parent than the other 10
I, for one, am glad to hear that you want to be punished for doing wrong. But I think that even if you parents don't punish you for doing wrong you should be as well behaved as you can dispite them. I'm sorry you feel that your parents don't care about you, I'm sure they do more than you know. Help your Grandma and behave.
Why don't you yell out:
You don't care about me! I can do anything wrong, and you just chat for 15 minutes and I can go out and do it again. You are my parents! Have you forgotten that? You have a child! It's me! I am a child! Are you to stupid to know what it is to be parents, or are you just indifferent because you wanted a boy and only got me!
and so on... Practice in the bathroom, but be aware that the yelling may sound less impressing in the livingroom - at least if you have carpets on the floor...
Or show them your question. If you can tell them what you wrote here, in the same polite way, they will listen. But again, then they may be even more convinced that you are so mature that you only need your parents as friends you can chat with.
So stick to yelling. You are just 14, and is expected to yell. And it works.
The next day you can apologize, because you should have done it long ago.
Go straight to the source. Have a heart-to-heart. If they don't budge, try talking to your Grandmother.
You can't change your parents,but it might help to sit down and talk to them! Maybe they have a reason! Are they guilty about something! After I got divorced, I spoiled my kids, because I felt guilty for failing them! Then my son started acting out, and I realized what I was doing! He was only 7 years old! So I changed my ways, and he turned out great!
So sit down, and talk seriously with your parents, and maybe things will change!
Acting out will only harm you, and your parents!
Remember communication works best!
Messing up is not the best way to get attention from your parents. Try making them proud of your achievements. It takes longer but is much better. Good luck and take care.
Don't do stupid things and get into trouble with the law...that follows you forever. Quit doing stupid things.......if they won't ground you...ground yourself!! I know a lot of kids who would love to be in your shoes. Feel greatful that they don't beat you everytime you do something stupid.
Don't mess your life up just to get attention. Doing a major crime can get you locked up in jail for the rest of your life, then you'll get lots of attention. Not only from the courts by also from the other inmates who want a young lil gf. Ask your parents if they love you %26amp; if they care about what you do. It sounds like you know right from wrong. Some parents just take the easy way out when it comes to raising their kids. Be a good girl so you can have a ';free'; life instead of a life as an inmate.
OK. you can probably sue your parents for neglect (trust me, BOTH my parents are lawyers). Your parents are doing a really bad job. at least, you know there is something wrong.
Well, don't ask to be punished, but try and see where the line is (try other ways of getting in trouble, maybe they'll notice)
You have really bad parents......
You want attention, this is understandable. Don't act out though and commit some huge crime. You def. don't want the attention you'll receive in prison from the other inmates. You should talk with your parents about how you feel like they aren't playing their role of parent very well because you feel neglected.
okay i noe that sounds heartbreaking but you're lucky your parents don't discipline you
There are a few ways you can look at this. Either your parents growing up had it really hard, ie: got spanked bad, their parents were really hard on them, or maybe they feel as though sitting down regardless if its in front of a t.v. watching MTV and talking to you would be better than just yelling at you over every thing you do thats wrong. It sounds as though you are also taking advantage of them not diciplining you. From what you commented on, you sound like you know whats right from wrong and you still go ahead and make the wrong choice's. Sit down with your parents with the T.V. off and ask them why they dont punish you. You both may find out a little more about each other than you think. BTW you should try to help your grandma out with cleaning, she isnt there as the maid she is doing You a favor, appreciate it and dont take advantage of it.
You may think that getting punished is a way for them to show they care, and sometimes it is. But maybe instead of getting in trouble to see their reaction is not a good idea. For example, a criminal record could affect you for the rest of your life and in ways you may not have thought of yet like government assistance (should you ever need it) and getting some jobs. What you want is attention from them, not punishment. Maybe you should hold a family meeting with your parents and grandmother. Tell them the real reason you got yourself arrested. They probably have no idea you feel a little neglected. Also, you should offer to help your grandmother with chores after school. That would give you time to spend together. She would probably enjoy your company and wouldn't be so bored. You'd be surprised at the stories she could tell you about her own childhood. It would be a great way for you to show your appreciation of her. Remember, she won't be alive forever and you may regret later the time you could have spent with her instead of getting in trouble. I hope this helps.
Maybe your parents honestly don't understand why you're doing these things. Sounds like they want to be more of a friend to you than a ';mean parent.';
You've got to bring this up to them. Talk to them about the fact that you feel uncared for because they don't punish you for doing anything wrong. Tell them that's why you did what you did to get arrested. Tell them you considered committing a major crime to get their attention.
They sound clueless. Clue them in, it might help.
ur parents dont care
discipline yourself
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