How can a child respect him/herself if he/she doesn't learn to respect others?What is wrong with parents today that they teach their children to disobey authority?
Its getting pretty bad these days. Kids are running wild and parents wont say or do anything about it because they do not want to ';put down'; there child. They are afraid there child will become depressed, sad, angry, abusive, ect... That is the biggest pile of malarky I have ever heard! Children need discipline, they want it. They need structure and for someone to tell them what to do or else they have no direction for themselves!
One of my pet peeves, that just irks me!What is wrong with parents today that they teach their children to disobey authority?
they see on the street. I do have hope for the future.
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Who is doing this? I hope this wasn't prompted by my posting of my daughter and the candy issue. She is very respectful and we teach her that but, teachers also need to be respectful to the child. I would understand perfectly if the teacher would have taken her candy away but it wasn't just the candy, it was all of the Valentines. The position I took with my daughter was she was wrong, the teacher was right.
I don't understand why either. Its just the way things seem to be. Teachers are looked down on and often looked at as glorified baby sitters. Its sad, and they are so under paid.
I don't know if that's true. I hope not.
sometimes its not the parents
my sons 8th grade teacher called me one day to ask me to make my son listen to her she had asked him to take his hat off and he smarted off saying he didn't have to because it wasn't ';his hat '; and she could not get him to take it off he was just pushing her to see what she would do he had no idea she called me till she put him on the phone all i did was ask him if i should come down to his school he told her he was sorry and took off his hat while i was still on the phone she never had a problem with him again
if strict boundary's are not set with children at a young age then they do not know how far they can go i have told teacher to walk my child off school grounds and smack him
most of my kids are bigger than i am but still know i am there mother and they will fallow the rules no matter what
if you give a child an inch they try for a mile
I am a teacher and I see a lot of children that are respectful and a lot of children that are not respectful. Someone said that the teacher needs to respect the student.... well, If we didn't respect children, we wouldn't be teachers. We all knew going into this job that we wouldn't get paid much. We are doing it for the children. It is very heartbreaking to see how disrespectful children are getting. (not all of them) The lunch room is a disgrace, some children talk back, when you ask a student to come up to your desk you get a ';yo';, last week someone wiped snot all over the bathroom not once but twice. The girls now have to go to the office to use the restroom and it gets checked after each child uses it. This is in a K-8 school and it was in the 5-8 wing.
I agree that it is a parenting issue. I have two children and if I ever thought that either of them would do any of the above their life would come crumbling down. She would not have dance, piano, friends, tv... you get the point.
The children that are acting like this mostly have a low self esteem and not so good family life. But there is an occasional cocky student.
GOD SAYS FOLLY IS BOUND IN THE HEART OF A CHILD, BUT THE ROD OF CORRECTION WILL DRIVE IT FAR FROM HIM.
PEOPLE TODAY THINK THEY KNOW BETTER, THEY REFUSE TO DISCIPLINE THEIR BRAT, THEN THE KID KICKS AND HITS THEM, SO BY 13 THE KID NEEDS DRUGS TO SIT STILL.
Yes, I find that to be disgusting. If I ever receive a phone call from a teacher, regarding a behavior issue my kids are having. I don't care what they did, they get a spanking. You don't disrespect authority. My girls know what good touches and bad touches are, and that authority figures should be touching them inappropriately. They know it's wrong for someone to be doing that, and they know to come and tell us right away so we can help them. Just because you teach them to RESPECT authority, doesn't mean they are just going to blindly follow, or submit.
parents raise their kids to be this way because either they were brought up this way themselves or jus do not care about themselves or anyone else. it is a true shame i know but it does happen. they only thing that we can do is to teach our own kids not to do this that way their will always be a few good people out there. hope this helps. good luck.
They want the kid to be a leader.. Leaders sometimes lead people who are older..
The issue arrived when parents were denied the right to discipline their children. When children don't respect their own parents, then how can we expect them to respect others. I am not an advocate for child abuse, but I do believe that a child who deserves a firm swat should be given one.
I suppose their are people like that. However looking around at society as a whole... I see alot of paretns that do not seem to have parenting skills (and they are easy to spot because they are so loud, lol).. and I see many successful, happy families whose children are respectful and well behaved.
You can blame the parents a bit, but remember we live in a world now where any kind of physical punishment is looked down upon. Also a lot more mothers compared to in years past, work now instead of staying at home to raise the kids. That's also part of it. But part of it is just lazy *** parents who treat their kids like whiney dogs. The kind that just whine and cry and bark and fuss until you give them a dog treat. These kids get used to always getting what they want just by throwing a fit everytime they dont.
I had one in a class I was subbing in today who, whenever I asked her to do the simple things that students are expected to do (sit down, do her work, stop talking) she'd respond with ';I know you ain't talking to me.'; I talked to the regular teacher, and found out ';mom'; was in last week handing out her phone number to any student who needed to ';report'; the teacher to her so she could ';take care'; of her.
DEAR
SIGN ONE PEACE OF PAPER THAT IS ALL IT TAKES SAYING YOU WILL NOT SUE THE SCHOOL FOR SPANKING HIS LITTLE BOTTOM WITH THE PADDLE DO NOT WORRY THE CHILD WILL NOT BE HARMED YOU WILL BE CALLED WHILE HE IS WALKING TO THE PRINCIPAL'S OFFICE WITH THE WROTE CARD FROM THE TEACHER THAT HE WAS GIVEN AND REMEMBER PLEASE DEAR YOU WILL GET A PHONE CALL WHILE HE IS SITING THERE BEFORE HE IS CALLED IN AND WHY THE PRINCIPAL ARE THE VICE PRINCIPAL IS ON THE PHONE WITH YOU HE WILL NOT KNOW IT AND HE WILL NOT KNOW YOU SIGNED THE PAPER UNLESS YOU TELL HIM AND YOU WILL HAVE NO MORE PROBLEMS AT SCHOOL WHILE YOU ARE WORKING IF YOU DO OK
TAKE CARE I HOPE THIS HELPS YOU OUT ON THIS MATTER.
And which parents are these? Name a few if you would?
Well, I know I don't teach my kids to blindly submit to all adult ';authority';. Just because one is an adult does not mean they have the child's best interests at heart. There are a million pedophiles out there, and the child that always submits to adults without question is their favorite kind. I will always back up my kids if they choose to disobey something that they HONESTLY feel is inappropriate, whether it turns out they're right or not.
**well, that what it comes down to, to me. Either teach your kids to always obey adults, or put in the extra parenting time and teach them some judgement. I know my kids wouldn't refuse to stop eating candy in class, but they would absolutely scream and kick if someone (even a teacher in an authority position) tried to touch them inappropriately.
That's not neccesarily true. I do agree with you but sometimes teachers get overwhelmed and take it out on the kdis so parents are always going to side with the kids now if the kids are cursing or being out of line than they should be repremanded correctly and the parents should hear the story before accusing anyone of mistreating their kids.
Yes, children have to LEARN respect. Parents, teachers, and others around them must be CONSISTENT role models of this. And in all honesty, it starts at home. Parents/guardians should be the first people to set this example.
I feel that many parents feel that their child can do no wrong, so therefor there is always an excuse for negative behavior. I had one my students bite another child and of course was given a consequence for this. The mother of the ';biter'; was angry about the consequence and explained that this happened because her child was taking his inhaler (it probably would have been a different story if it were her child was bitten). I further explained that I take an inhaler for chronic asthma and I don't bite any of my students nor did I when I was a child. What needs to be taught is that the children need to face consequences for certain choices that they make and yes, there may be times in which things aren't fair. But guess what...that's life and experiences both negative and positive ones allow them to learn these life skills! Children need to learn life skills! This in itself teaches self-respect and respect for those around them.
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