What to do when a parent favors a child?

My brothers and I are adults, but one brother in particular my dad has always favored. My bro is getting married now and my dad is bouncing off the walls with excitement. He never gets excited like that for the rest of us. I know it's childish to feel jealous but it still hurts.What to do when a parent favors a child?
This is a terrible situation-but it is not your brother's fault- so do not be angry with him- unless he's a jerk about it too





It is not childish to be upset by this-even now-and I do not think that it is jealousy that you are feeling





I think it is more of a rightful disappointment and hurt that you feel- your father is wrong, immature, irresponsible, neglectful and selfish-I could go on- but I think you get the picture





My mother always favored me- I was the oldest and from childhood on I was her favorite-- It was not really noticeable as young children but the real problem came when the grandchildren came-because she favored mine (at least two of them) and it was very obvious to my brother and sister, their children, and to my other children





Your father is out of line. If a parent favors one child over the others-no child should ever be able to figiure it out. That is one of the few things that the parent could have done for the kids they didn't favor. Act in a way so that the less favored ones never felt less favored.





Most however, are too selfish to do this- and they stumble thru life screwing all the kids up- if given the chance





I tried to ignore it, I tried to accept it as her problem and I tried to help my children handle it- but the botton line was, that no matter how we handled it- my mother hurt my siblings and eventually my kids, and the other grandkids





My sister will have nothing at all to do with my mother, and my brother is a messed up adult who has nothing in life and hates my mother to this day, and all of the other grandkids think less of themselves because grandma didnt love them





My oldest and youngest children-who were the favored ones-do not want anything to do with her because they are now old enough to see how unfair she has been and the other 2 who she ignored are just hurt and resolved that they never had a grandma and never will





You need to realize that if your father really truly does favor the one- that he is never going to change. You can not make anyone love someone that they do not love





But if the man noticeably shows favoritism- keep him away from all of your children. Do not do it angrily-simply accept it as a fact of life-but do it- he is an emotional danger and it is your place to protect your children from emotional dangers.





Good luck with this, as it is one of those things in life that is unfair and usually stays unfairWhat to do when a parent favors a child?
Don't feel jealous, your father may be living vicarious through your brother, and your brother may want/need his attention and will do anything to get it. It may even bring hatred towards your other siblings and the favored brother. Did anyone else get married or is he the first? This could play an important factor.
yeah i know the feeling you must be related to my family my dad is like that with my sister and her child. ha ha too bad for them they are all nutty anyhow, ignore their stupidity, and move on with your life, it's tough but it will never change
There's really nothing you can do. Even if you talk about it with him, he'll still favor him, just not so outwardly. That might be okay for you though. Just tell him to stop playing favorites around you.
Talk to him about it. Other than that there's nothing you can do. Deal with it.